Much to the dismay of many, Crikey is still in the picture. He continues to be a flake, and uncommunicative, and I continue to make excuses for him. I'm not as emotionally invested in him as I was, but still, if the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result, I'm certifiable.
Problem is, it's hard to find someone in this day and age that I connect with on multiple levels. If a guy's super nice and treats me great, I'm not that attracted to him; if I'm super attracted to him and he makes my laugh, he treats me like crap. Where's the happy medium?
So when does one give up? SHOULD one give up when they find a connection with someone? It's easy to watch a good friend making the same mistakes and think, why is she with this jerk, but when you're in it, it's much harder to see that and walk away.
Today's society tells us we should have it all. And we believe that. I think this is part of the reason the divorce rate is so high. We don't think we should have to compromise and be understanding of our partners, we should have it all. And when you have 2 people in a relationship both expecting to have their definition of "all", then the stage is set for failure.
So where do I draw the line? Where do you? When do you pass the point of being understanding and cross into being disrespected? And how much do you put up with if it's for someone really great? If relationships takes patience and understanding, why are we so quick to judge and blame people for their mistakes and declare the person as unworthy of our time?
Or am I just asking these questions in an effort to alleviate my guilt at continuing to see this guy?
CRAP.
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