Sex & the Holidays

OK, I apologize. I've slacked on the blogging. It's been a combination of factors: I'm tired of dating, I've been sick, and I'm just plain LAZY. But I'm trying to push past that and keep moving forward. If not for me than for you, my readers. All three of you.

I am a holiday FREAK. I love every over commercialized little detail of them. Advertisers know this and prey on lonely souls like myself with their nauseating jewelry, flower, and luxury car commercials.

(Though has anyone seen the creepy new Kay jewelers ad that takes place in the cabin in the woods? Am I the only person screaming at the woman "RUN bitch! He is going to take that diamond necklace and STRANGLE YOU WITH IT!")

I am clearly not the only one feeling these pangs of desire for someone special at the holidays as was evidenced by the amount of activity my profile received on Thanksgiving day. One thing I've learned in the online dating scene is that after awhile it's like going to a bar and seeing the "regulars." Although your responses may be overwhelming at first after a few months it takes much more of an effort to meet new people and seek out the new faces on your chosen dating site.

On Thanksgiving however, I received 4 new contacts. No one I'm interested in but still, it was an interesting phenomenon to observe. It made me kind of sad actually. I was lucky to spend Thanksgiving surrounded by friends, phone calls from family, and good food. Sure, I would've liked to have someone to snuggle up to after dinner for a tryptophan induced nap, but I was also perfectly happy sitting with my dog on the couch and watching Fa La La La Lifetime.

I'll admit, I'm tired of being single. When I was younger I was not a relationship person. In fact, I ran from them. In some ways, I suppose I still do. But I'm trying to push past that so that I can find the happiness I know is possible with another person. In the mean time though, I'm realizing how lucky I am to have a large group of friends who love and care for me as much as they do. Not everyone has that.

Hallmark wants you to believe that you can't possibly have a happy holiday without the hot man and the diamond necklace, and for years, I have agreed with them. But this Thanksgiving I was able to step back and appreciate what I DO have and not what I don't.

And THAT, is what I am thankful for.
LL