I've gone on a few dates with the lawyer since I last mentioned him. Or should I say, I've gone on a few dates with the lawyer AND his friends. First there was a hockey game with a big gang of them. Then a sushi dinner with his best friend and the girl he's dating. Last week, a BBQ with a bunch of his friends. The only time we hang out one on one is when we're....well....ahem.
This is more than a friends with benefits situation, but it's not a relationship. It's the dating green zone. And it's a blast! I'm not going to marry the guy and I know that. He knows that. We're both ok with that. We are practicing what I was preaching in yesterday's post: FUN.
It's more than just fun though, it's good practice for my next relationship. I care about the lawyer but if he decided tomorrow he never wanted to see me again, I'd wave goodbye, ask him for his (hot) best friend's number, and be on my way. This feeling has made me quite carefree. If he annoys me, I tell him. If I'm feeling insecure about something, I tell him. And he does the same with me. Every relationship should be as easy as my non-relationship!
Who knows how long this will last? I don't, he doesn't, and neither of us are wasting time worrying about that. It's nice to get an unexpected text from him during the week just saying hi and seeing how I'm doing. But if I don't get a text every day, I don't analyze it to death. Not being hyper focused on a dude has freed up a lot of my time and headspace. I think I may just figure out a cure for cancer with all these new previously occupied brain cells.
I'm repeating myself. I'm just in awe at how easy this is and how good I feel about it. It's not as cheesy as a Kate Hudson movie and not as stupid as the latest Natalie Portman/Ashton Kutcher vehicle. It's, as Little Red Riding Hood said: just right.
I know that somewhere in the Universe exists my perfect soul mate -- but looking for him is much more difficult than just staying at home and ordering another pizza,
LL
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